that nice guy

I started this blog in an effort to keep my darling best friend who is currently on a job assignment in the middle east up to date on my boy adventures.

and it has turned into so much more than that.
this blog has quickly turned into my Journal 2.0.
my thoughts are now typed for all the world to see on the Internets. gone are the days when they were locked away in my nightstand, right next to the vibrator and condoms.

and i kinda like it.
perhaps my mistakes, endeavours, successes, and their subsequent lessons will shed light on others' search for butterflies.

so here i am today, to muse about That Nice Guy.
we all know one - the guy who gets you a cab home, the one who finds your jacket and makes sure you get home safe.

i have one of those and he likes me. a lot, i think.  i met That Nice Guy through good friends and through various social and sport activities. we actually see each other quite often.

and one night in the middle of the summer, we made out in the rain, in my car.  here was the conversation:

*intense storm rain is beating down and we are in my car, music is playing softly on the radio...there is silence..until finally..*

That Nice Guy: wow. that is intense rain.
me: righhhht. so are we going to sit here in my car and talk about the weather, or are you going to kiss me?
That Nice Guy: oh yes, right, i was getting to that.

and so began a very lovely make-out that lasted for quite sometime, until the rain died down and he ran inside.  and i ran away.

he is too damn nice. he has a good job, talks highly of his mom, and has it pretty much together.  he is single, available, tall, and attractive.  so why can't i like him?

i have ditched him a few times now and with work being so busy, i haven't made any effort to see him.  and then last night, he came by my friend's house for drinks.  and it wasn't so bad. 

i had a conversation about That Nice Guy with my new and wonderful friend, D, the other day.  she agreed that it was pretty fucked up that often we feel the need to run far away from stable and nice.  perhaps it's time, we thought, to start a new trend - a trend that involves embracing a kind of boy that is thoughtful, generous, and caring.  the one who would marry you. the one who thinks about buying a house and saving for retirement.

i will see That Nice Guy tonight and i am excited to embrace my new trend.